Scorpio friends! Control is due to powerlessness; relaxation leads to fearlessness.

Fixed zodiac signs, as the name suggests, can also be known as being more or less stubborn in their bodies, but the degree, aspects, and fields they target are slightly different.

As one of the water signs, Scorpio is naturally more stubborn on the emotional level. They are often prone to emotional anxiety due to excessive thoughts, or they are immersed in too strong emotions, worry about gains and losses, and are afraid of facing loneliness. And this fear is also the primary source of their sense of tension.

The desire for control is often associated with a lack of security

After being in contact with Scorpios for a long time, it is usually easy to feel the desire for control they carry.

However, this control will not require the other party to perform it through direct expression or coercion. On the contrary, they will give you the right to choose whether to do it or not, but he sets the scope of this choice.

Of course, Scorpio will have many soft-hearted moments in the face of worldly affairs, but they will not change at all. They need the other person to act in a way that they give or accept, and the sense of control is often reflected in these processes one by one.

For example, in a relationship, when a Scorpio feels very secure, he will be very willing to watch you play some insignificant "little tricks" in front of him, such as deliberately looking for trouble because of jealousy, even if it is to say cold words to him in public places. It doesn’t matter if you are enthusiastic about others.

He knows it's because you care, so he is willing to accept these little fun things. He will also come over and explain it to you very patiently.

But if you use the above methods to confront him when he doesn't have a strong sense of security in this relationship, I'm sorry, but all these will be ineffective. On the contrary, they will cause him to be confused and dissatisfied and even make him feel you don't trust him.

At this time, it will be easy for him to use a controlling method to arm his inner fear of losing this relationship and issue demands such as asking you to report on time.

This kind of inner uneasiness and fear is not only reflected in feelings.

When it comes to work and career, it may manifest itself in fear of losing one's job, so one begins to compete continuously to gain the right to speak and decide on projects; in interpersonal life, it may manifest itself in directly arranging schedules for relatives and friends, etc., and seizing the initiative in action.

If within a reasonable range, Scorpions' practices can bring a strong sense of security to everyone; however, the difficulty is that they can quickly go too far and turn into "egos" if they are not careful.

Acting based on your thoughts as objective facts may, on the one hand, put pressure on those around you, and the other hand, it may also easily cause you to fall into negative emotions and spiral inside.

Being more relaxed makes you fearless.

Regarding the depth of affection, there is a high probability that no one can beat Scorpio.

And we all know there is a word: too much is not enough. Still, when you over-invest and want to get the same reward for your efforts, it is almost equivalent to handing over the weight of your heart to the unknown, and at the same time, it arouses people's desire to control the results.

The paradox is that people can only try to grasp themselves.

I hope that everything will be within the scope of my expectations. I am afraid that the situation will become unfamiliar to me. That strangeness will indeed make people fear and want to escape. The only way to face these uncontrollable processes is to find A surefire way to alleviate fear.

Scorpios, you must understand that others do not grant you existence. Accepting the encounters and separations, intensity, and cooling that will inevitably occur in life and learning to accept impermanence and necessity may be the first step to untying yourself and learning to relax.

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